Social Rules

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU AND YOU SHOULD YOU SHOULD ..........YOU SHOULD FOLLOW.

 

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person who loaned it to you remembers or asks for it. It shows your integrity and character. The same goes for umbrellas, pens, and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you to lunch or dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh, so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a house?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a car?’ For God’s sake, it isn’t your problem.

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time.

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember, what may seem like 6 to you might appear as 9 to someone else. Besides, a second opinion is good for an alternative.

8. Never interrupt people while they are talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all.

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and shows how appreciative you are.

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.... This applies to kids too. 

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctor's appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay." Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness.

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed by how rudely you treat someone below you, but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

17. Never give advice until you’re asked.

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age or salary.

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it.

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreover, eye contact is as important as your speech.

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22. After reading a good message, consider saying "Thanks for the message."

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have.

Following this small often neglected issues, will make you socially sound and reapectful. 

Speed Reading Technique

These lessons from "Speed Reading" provide practical guidance for improving reading speed, comprehension, and efficiency, ultimately helping readers to become more effective and efficient learners

1. Focus on Comprehension: Speed reading isn't just about reading quickly; it's also about understanding and retaining information effectively.

2. Use Visual Techniques: Utilize techniques such as chunking, visualization, and peripheral vision to increase reading speed without sacrificing comprehension.

3. Practice Regularly: Like any skill, speed reading improves with practice. Set aside dedicated time each day to practice speed reading techniques and gradually increase your reading speed.

4. Eliminate Subvocalization: Minimize subvocalization, the habit of silently pronouncing words as you read, to increase reading speed and reduce cognitive load.

5. Utilize Skimming and Scanning: Learn to skim and scan texts to quickly identify key points, main ideas, and relevant information.

6. Pre-Reading Strategies: Preview texts before reading them in full by scanning headings, subheadings, and summaries to gain an overview of the content and structure.

7. Maintain Focus: Minimize distractions and create a conducive reading environment to enhance focus and concentration while speed reading.

8. Use Technology Wisely: Leverage technology tools and apps designed to improve reading speed and comprehension, such as speed reading apps and RSVP (Rapid Serial Visual Presentation) readers.

9. Set Realistic Goals: Establish achievable reading goals based on your current reading speed and gradually work towards increasing your speed over time.

10. Continuous Improvement: Speed reading is a skill that can always be improved. Continuously seek out new techniques, strategies, and resources to enhance your speed reading abilities.

Powerful lesson to practice your mind

1. Embrace the Process, Not Just the goal, emphasize that enjoyment and fulfillment come from the act of practicing itself, not just achieving the end goal. Learning to find joy in the repetition and effort of mastering a skill leads to deeper engagement and more sustainable progress.

2. Mindfulness as a Powerful Tool: Cultivating mindfulness helps quiet distractions, enhance focus, and develop deeper awareness of your internal state. This allows you to navigate challenges with greater composure and learn from both successes and failures.

3. Breaking Down Tasks into Manageable Chunks: Instead of feeling overwhelmed by the big picture, break down your goals into smaller, achievable steps. This makes the process less daunting and allows you to celebrate each milestone, boosting motivation and resilience.

4. Develop a Practice Routine: Consistency is key. Establishing a regular practice routine, even if it's just for short periods each day, reinforces discipline, develops muscle memory, and accelerates progress.

5. Embrace Effort and Challenge: Overcoming difficulties is an essential part of learning and growth. View challenges as opportunities to refine your skills, develop perseverance, and build mental fortitude.

6. The Importance of Rest and Recovery: Just like our muscles, our minds need time to rest and recharge. Taking breaks, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities you enjoy helps prevent burnout and maintain focus and motivation.

7. Continuous Learning and Adjustment: Learning is a lifelong journey. Be open to feedback, experiment with different approaches, and be willing to adjust your practice based on your evolving needs and skills.

What Really Matters...

10 rules ..to focus on what really matters

1. Identify your priorities: Take the time to reflect on what truly matters to you and what you want to achieve in life. 

This clarity will help you make better decisions and allocate your time and energy effectively.

2. Eliminate distractions: Minimize or eliminate distractions that hinder your focus and productivity. 

This includes reducing time spent on social media, turning off notifications, and creating a conducive environment for deep work.

3. Practice essentialism: Embrace the concept of essentialism, which means focusing on the vital few things that bring the most value and impact to your life. 

Say no to non-essential tasks and commitments.

4. Set clear goals: Define clear and specific goals that align with your priorities. 

This will help you stay focused and motivated, as well as measure your progress along the way.

5. Develop a routine: Establishing a daily routine can help you create structure and consistency in your life. It allows you to allocate time for your priorities and reduces decision fatigue.

6. Embrace minimalism: Simplify your life by decluttering physical possessions, digital clutter, and unnecessary commitments. 

This will free up mental space and allow you to focus on what truly matters.

7. Practice mindfulness: Cultivate mindfulness by being fully present in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. 

This helps you stay focused and make intentional choices.

8. Prioritize self-care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being. 

Prioritize activities like exercise, proper nutrition, quality sleep, and relaxation to maintain your energy and focus.

9. Learn to say no: Be selective about the commitments and opportunities you take on. 

Saying no to non-essential tasks or requests allows you to protect your time and focus on what truly matters.

10. Continuously evaluate and adjust: Regularly review your priorities, goals, and commitments. 

Adjust as needed to ensure you stay aligned with what truly matters to you.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

1. Acknowledge Feelings: It is very important that we validate children's emotions by acknowledging their feelings without any type judgment or criticism. By empathizing with their emotions, parents can create a supportive and understanding environment for children, children open up when they feel acknowledged and attended. 

2. Use Descriptive Language: Children should be handled with utmost care, when ever are talking about children avoid blaming them or naming them under any criteria, Instead of labeling or judging children's behavior, describe what you see or feel without assigning blame. This helps children understand the consequences of their actions and encourages self-reflection.

3. Offer Choices: let them decide. Give children choices whenever possible to empower them and encourage autonomy. So you would end up giving reasonable and effective choices only. By involving children in decision-making, parents can promote a sense of responsibility and co-operation and of course they would not have scope to go wrong.

4. Problem-Solving Skills: let them fight their own battle. Teach children problem-solving skills by involving them in finding solutions to conflicts or challenges. Let them fund solutions to their problems in your supervision.do not involve yourself in it. Encourage brainstorming, listening to different perspectives, and working together to reach mutually acceptable solutions.

5. Active Listening: Use tour body language to make child feel and understand that you are  listening. Practice active listening by giving children your full attention, making eye contact, and listening without interruption nodding your head, Smiling or showing expressions. Reflect back their feelings and thoughts to show that you understand and respect their perspective.

6. Limit Criticism and Praise: Do not judge the child on it act or event brighter praise the child too much bother are dangerous and are hindrance to their growth. Avoid excessive criticism or praise, as both can be counterproductive. Instead, focus on specific feedback and encouragement that promotes intrinsic motivation and self-esteem.

7. Use Positive Reinforcement: Always acknowledge and praise positive behavior. Focus on their efforts, force they have put in. Appreciate their thinking ability and consider their limitations as well. Encourage positive behavior by using specific, descriptive praise and rewards. Focus on the effort and progress rather than the outcome, and be consistent in reinforcing desired behaviors.

8. Set Clear Boundaries: let the children know their limitations. they should be aware of their area of performance the field they have to plat in. Establish clear and consistent rules and boundaries to provide structure and guidance for children. Communicate expectations calmly and respectfully, and enforce consequences when necessary.

9. Model Effective Communication set a good example for your child.be the person you want your child to be. work in small aspects of behavior, personality approach and thought process as well. Lead by example by demonstrating respectful and effective communication skills in your interactions with others, including children. Show empathy, active listening, and problem-solving strategies in your own behavior.

10. Encourage Emotional Expression: Let the child know he is accepted with his emotional baggage. Keep the environment open and safe as well as supportive.  Create a safe and supportive/comfortable environment for children to express their emotions openly and honestly. Validate their feelings and help them develop healthy coping strategies for managing emotions.

11. Respect Individual Differences: Every child may react differently for an act, be more acceptable in nature. Recognize and respect each child's unique temperament, interests, and needs. Adapt your communication style and parenting approach accordingly to support their individual development.

12. Foster Mutual Respect: Treat them with dignity. Cultivate a relationship of mutual respect and trust with your children by treating them with dignity, empathy, and understanding. Show appreciation for their efforts and contributions, and value their opinions and perspectives.

GODDESS OF DESIRE

  

The Goddess of Desires

We have been worshiping the women power as per Indian Mythology. We worship Goddess as well in different phases of life. As part of our culture we take blessing from parents or elders at home before starting the day.

Lakshmi the goddess of prosperity, fortune and wealth. We all have been worshiping her. We are aware that she is lord Vishnu’s wife. It is said that Lakshimi resided in Lord Vishnu’s heart. She is believed to be daughter of king of ocean. It is also said that during the churning of ocean when Lakshmi emerged, she emerged with her shadow Kulakshmi.

Kulakshmi has all the qualities exactly opposite to Lakshmi and she accompanies her where ever she goes.

Lakshmi’s arrival brings prosperity, wealth and health to the person, but if  you take her for granted and do not value her presence she moves out of the house. But when she leaves, Kulakshmi is believed to stay back and ruin the family’s fortune, wealth and relations as well.

 

In Indian mythology, it is believed that Lakshmi manifests in eight forms, hence called Ashtalakshimi.

The first called Adilakshmi, it is believed to be her first manifestation that emerged out of ocean churning during  Samudra Manthan. This is the common picture that we see. She wears red jaari saree and is seated in a Pink lotus.

Second is Dhanyalakshmi, who is normally worshiped by farmers. She has hands filled with grains pouring them on ground.

DhairyaLakshmi is worships by those who seek bravery as she is known for the courage and gives strength. Gajalakshmi is also called Gajanthlakshmi, it is in the form of elephant with his aroused trunk and pour gold or spray water. People keep Gajanth Lakshmi at home to attract wealth and properity. SantanaLakshmi is the fifth appearance  of Goddess Lakshmi worshiped by childless couples as she is surrounded by children. Vijayalakshmi is the sixth form and is worshiped for victory and courage. You can easily relate them to the warriors or kings in olden age. Vidyalakshmi is the seventh one who is prayed for knowledge. She is somewhat similar to Goddess Saraswati, but Goddess Saraswati is more stable .

The eights is Dhanalakshmi the goddess of wealth who is pouring the gold from her hands.

These all are the various appearance of Lakshmi, and prayed or worshiped for different desires, but all have the shadow of Kulakshmi with them. As she is the goddess of desires she may bless you , but you need to value her presence and do not take her appearance or blessing for granted. As a result of it is believed that she steps out of the house and is not followed by Kulakshmi who stays back.

The mythological Character Lakshmi is so relevant to women on earth, who appears in various roles in your life. You need to value her contribution and accept her with the darker side –Kulakshmi.

Thou she is a Goddess she performs different roles in different appearances. Then why being a human- a simple women we have that urge to do anything and everything. Would that not be right  if you provide yourself few roles that you can perform better. We unknowingly get engraved into number of roles at a time. It happens that we realise some day that we are stretching too much to perform all roles. Try and justify your role to satisfy your urge and give best results. These best results are not for the world but for yourself.