Positive parenting

Today a friend of mine inquired about how I manage my four-year daughter. Does she ask for mobile. How do I keep her busy. And many more questions. I thought of writing about positive parenting.parents are feeling it challenging to control their children in holidays
It's probably first opportunity for many of us to stay with family and kids for such long duration. Many parents being working have not seen their child grow and realized the magic in these few days. Our commitments to our profession has taken us far away from this fabulous experience of child growth.
Let us take this as an opportunity and get along, live that part of life which we have missed.
My husband is lawyer in Mumbai, he travels by train and has no fixed schedule. He travels at any time of day and night. Sometimes he leaves before she wakes up and returns after  she sleeps. We have missed many celebrations and occasions at times due to his schedule, but we plan and make up-to it as and when possible.
The nature of his profession keeps him busy for weekends too. We both try to keep time slots for our daughter during the day so that she feels attended. Giving attention  to child is very important  these days as they feel neglected or start seeking atentionby Various  ways.  When ever possible me and my daughter go to drop and pick him up from the railway station, so that it gives her some time with her dad. That's my way of keeping them connected.
This phase of staying at home has given us more time to spend with her and believe me it's 15 days for her and 8 days for us, but we are not at all bored. We are loving staying back at home.
There are cases wherein parents as well as children  are actually finding it difficult to get along as we  were not prepared  for pandemic.Here positive  parenting comes into Picture.it definitely  helps to get along as well as helps to maintain the discipline  and love hand in hand.
Positive parenting is technique where you try to get along with children at their comfort. Here are some tips.

*Your child learns from the example you set.they are your reflection so try to be the one you want to see. Apple doesn't fall apart from the tree. So set a good example.
*Appreciate your child for his good deeds. Hug him make him feel loved and encourage him. Appreciate him with words like amazing, you make us proud, bravo, go on, fantastic, keep good work.
*Set simple rules. Explain the rules along with consequences. Do not enforce consistently, try and do it step by step.
*Do not use violence. Discipline the child fairly and firmly. Make him understand, explain him. Violence will increase the distance between you.
*Show respect to his feelings appreciate his ideas.encourage him to think more. Value his inputs.
*Spend time with your child. Book slot for him no matter how busy, tensed you are. Chat with him for hours at least once during the day.
*Keep yourself update on happenings around him, keep information on his friends and schools
*Keep daily learning as a MUST rule, apart from school. Update his general knowledge. Share some values some information with him.
*Include reading as daily task. Anything newspaper, books, stories.
*Have some eye to eye conversation of their interest.
*Ensure his physical activity daily along with good food and sound sleep.
*Accept their failures at times and encourage them to start again. 

This will definitely bond children with parents. Be more of their friends and try to be of their age. It is believed children need eight touches during the day to feel connected with the parent.their behavior is their communication, understand their stage of development.
Let them know they are unique, you are always there for them no matter what.