The domestic violence act is made for the effective protection of the rights of women from any kind of violence. We have heard that domestic violence has increased like never before during the lockdown, what does that mean?
If you think you are not treated the way you should be resulting in physical or mental hurt, stress, or violence, it may be domestic violence. DV is a serious threat to women by husband, family members, or in-laws. It is not only heated arguments but physical torture, emotional, or even economic abuse.
Many times women do not even understand what is domestic violence and remain in the cycle of violence. She stays in abusive relationships because of society or family pressures. Remember the movie Thappad? Not only Tapsee Pannu’s character but also her maids’ character gives you a clear idea of self-esteem and domestic violence. Having self-esteem is very important for one to live a normal life.
Domestic violence is the best tool to fight against violence, gives power to women, thou there are some opportunistic women in society who try to abuse the legal system by misusing it. So it’s always a tool used in divorce cases. If you see carefully in the movie Thappad she never mentioned she was abused by domestic violence but was just against the slap she got form her husband, that’s self-esteem.
Woman exposed to DV goes thru a lot of guilt, confusion, self-blame, and shame as they love their partners. A lot of them feel hopeless, stuck, and helpless in such situations. But speaking about it is the only way out. Women think there is no way out of DV, but staying in abusive relationships may put her life at risk. It may extend to your family also, like Children always suffer due to violence and abusive relationships.
At times you feel abused in a loving relationship, but it is not clear if it really can be termed abuse. Actually in such cases the abuser, the husband also doesn’t understand he is doing wrong or even violating the women’s rights. The following points may help you identify and correct your abusive behavior.
How to identify the red flags in your relation, here are some
• If your partner, in-laws, or family members are keeping a watch on you, like where you go, whom you meet, or other activities.
• Demanding your passwords to private emails, phones, etc, expecting you to reply to texts and
messages immediately
• Discouraging you to see your friends or parents.
• Discouraging you to go to work.
• Constant accusing you of cheating
• Losing temper every now and then without a factual reason, resulting in panic or abusive language.
• Controlling how you spend your money, medicines
• Demeaning you, controlling your personal activities like what to wear, etc, which, is normally decided by an individual?
• Physically harming or threatening you, humiliating in front of others
• Destroying your property you care about
• Beating, shoving, slapping, kicking, or pushing you using any weapon against you.
• Forcing to have sex or intimate activities
• Abetment or forcing to suicide
There is help available, many NGO’s and various organizations that deal with DV as the main function. I have been associated with one NGO for about two years, they worked for unfortunate women free of cost Legal Aid for DV. It fought for the helpless women who suffered and finally decided to stand for themselves. Domestic violence is seen throughout all societies may be rich or poor.
They help you by supporting you in providing shelter homes, guidance, and even counseling. Free Legal Aid is also made available to abused women. You can talk to someone who has been trained to help. DV can be taken care of by counseling and talking before it gets into practice and piling up.
The link below can give you a clear idea and help if required.
It is very essential to speak out rather than suffering. There always a way out and the world stands out to help you. You will have to take one step for your self to make your life worth living and your kids live a stress-free life.
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