Super women syndrome

After  working in corporate  for almost 17 years, I felt like my life almost took a U turn.I am a house wife since last 5 years, a full time mother and frequently  a wife. Collegues are replaced by neighbours and all people in family are my bosses, everyone gave me deadline based on their work timings.
After frequent meetings with ladies around may be neighbours and mothers of my daughters friends I realised every lady  wants to be a 'Superwomen'. The term reminds me of women posing like maa Durga with different  weapons in her hand like books, utensils, grocery bag, veggies, medicine.It feels like every lady around wants to be the best wife, best mother, best daughter  in law, best cook and even best neighbour. I felt like they are stretching  themselves   to best possible   and then to worst. They are literally  working for twelve to fifteen  hours.Getting up early at 5 am to sleeping at 11pm or so. It is very  disheartening  to see the way women is treating  herself. Above all this she easily ignores health.They stretch to the extent  that they harm themselves and do not even realise  it. 

We want to 'Do it all' on ourselves, single handedly....is it?? Why?? 

So let's make a priority  list include everything  that matters and that is important .

Go thru the list a final check, I am sure you are not on the list, because you are not your priority. Exactly  this is what we are doing to ourselves. We are busy stretching  ourselves  at best, till it turns worst, worst on you  health wise, mentally  as well as physically. 

We all are educated, and suppose  some are working too. We give all our strength  to  our job no matter at office or  at home. . We are suppose  to cook,suppose to serve,suppose to handle the kitchen, kids. No complains  we do it and we love to do it so we do it. It's all in our bringing  up, our dear mothers have taught us,isnt it?

Somewhere  our aunties, uncles, grandparents, who are termed as society,  have different views on how we should behave, should treat others, should  wear and much more. We adhere to all this out of faith, teachings, and need of society. 

Society never taught us to keep ourselves in the priority  list, not even last. They never taught us to be at out comfort. Many times we feel, anxiety, nervousness, irritation ,restlessness, uneasy, inability to focus,pain somewhere which is not physical, memory issues, muscle tension at times, sleeplessness,or excessive sleep,or just a unhappy  feeling. I used to feel like these symptoms, I took it as illness and tried paracetamol  on it. 

Memory issues, I just laughed  on it couple of times but internally  felt worried. Less sleep  and excessive sleep almost ruined my health. Over period of time I realized  its just because of taking too many challenges  at one time.The 'do it all' women -A Super  Women. 

It's not super women but Super women syndrome. Yes and we actually  need to pay some attention  to it, help yourself and treat it the right way. 

When we deal with lot of things together, it's very common to feel stressed, fatigued.After  running behind things and people throughout the day if you feel unhappy lost instead  of feeling  fulfilled  or empowered,you need help. 

How to deal with this? 

Talk to your family, friends, delegate duties, share the burden  may be work or  activities.Let other family members  contribute their help  in your activities. 

There is no need to do everything  by yourself. 

Forget things that give you stress or acts that does not make you happy.Do not indulge  into any activity  that you are doing unwillingly. Do not do any activity at the cost of your happiness. Mind your business.mind your activities. 

Understand and accept your capability  and inability. There can be some things you cannot do. Accept your inability . Let the capable  person  do the job. It's OK, if you are unable  to perform. 

If something  gives you stress, thinking is not going to help you nor it will reduce your stress. So ignore, move on, stop thinking.Perform do not worry about the results.Be positive to yourself. 

Relax- Give some time to yourself.Enjoy some hobby. Do anything that gives you happiness.look back at your life, what fascinated you the most, movies, painting, reading, trekking.whatever it is practice  it, if it gives you happiness 

Self care is very essential  elements  of our life to make it enriching. Being selfcaring is not being selfish. Try and show concern to the face in the mirror, try and make that face happy. 

Perfection is not constant  it's a relative  word. Do not run behind it. No one is perfect. It's an illusion. If you have an perfect  image in your mind, please  understand once you attain its either over or it changes.

For example it's not about  having fat body, or thin body  it's about having healthy body. 

So ladies do not try to put on your chaddies  on your suits or sarees  to be a superwomen. It's OK being  bit inefficient  bit incapable.

Go to the mirror ,see the image , try and make it smile.... Because unless and until you have it in you,  how will you give it to someone.