women centric thought proviking comedy movie....

Saw a south indian movie Jay Jay Jay Jay hey, a story of girl who is deprived and denied of evrthing since childhood. 

It's a comic presentation of  a serious issue, similar movie had been released in hindi thappad. The movie has lot in common but presentation is very different. 

Husband can hit sometimes, it's ok and women has to accept or bear it. The universally accepted wrong in our society. The movie has really provoked thought in right way. It doesn't leave you with lots of questions at end, but gives you a clear solution and moreover clarity of thought. 

The movie was good to watch and enjoy as well as realise the facts  of society behind closed door. The irony is every women goes through is more or less some act some react and some just accept. 

Since ages we have been writing for women,and still it continues to. It is read by men, women and is ignored by society. 

The movie is worth and enjoying as and thought provoking dialogues and thought process. 

There are answers to log kya kehenge, log kya sochenge in very humourous way, making people think differently. The movie is clear and send message prominently but has many things to read between the lines.

The actors look like common neighbourhood family so relates well. 

Mus watch... For fun and clarity. 

blog 1 Mr and Miss

The irony is such confident and smart girls and daughters and daughter in laws in future.

 This is a story of different girls who at the some point a very confident smart and ambitious but where supposed to get married at the right age that was the reason this blog exists. This is the collection of various stories happened with different girls when they were in search of their Prince Charming. do all of them have settled and are living happily the actual journey was really worth sharing. it's an experience everyone need to know. marriage is still an unavoidable fact of any girls life. this stories will bring you all the humour surprises facts and the pain one has to go through just to add that Mrs before her name. some situations may sound funny and quite humorous but they are worth giving a thought and brainstorming for the condition of society live in. 

Does it not apply to men, yes it does apply. But women's role was defined for those four walls only. Where as men had that world to explore, where he does his limited job. The treatment men get once they are back home from working day is still different from what women gets. Well I am not making any hue and cry about it, but that the fact. 

Women always has to keep her crown in the office or even at the treashold once she is at home. 

But man remains the king throughout, he even wears it on the bed and in the washroom, where no one is watching. 

So many more blogs to come for us... Both men and  women. Just proviking your thought's. 

train your mind to be successful

10 practical lessons you can learn from "Train Your Mind to Be Successful: Attract and Get Anything You Want in Life" by Sayra Montes:

    1. Harness the Power of Visualization: Create vivid mental images of your goals and desired outcomes. This practice helps you program your subconscious mind for success and build confidence in achieving them.

    2. Craft Empowering Affirmations: Develop positive affirmations that challenge negative self-talk and reinforce your belief in your abilities. Repeating these affirmations daily can reprogram your mindset for success.

    3. Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude: Practice focusing on the positive aspects of your life and expressing appreciation for what you already have. Gratitude fosters a positive outlook and attracts more abundance.

    4. Embrace Failure as a Learning Opportunity: Don't see setbacks as roadblocks, but rather as stepping stones for growth. Analyze what went wrong, learn from the experience, and pick yourself up with renewed determination.

    5. Take Consistent Action: Success rarely happens passively. Develop a plan of action and take consistent steps, no matter how small, towards your goals.

    6. Develop a Growth Mindset: Believe that your talents and abilities can be developed through effort and learning. Embrace challenges as opportunities to improve and expand your skillset.

    7. Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is crucial for sustained motivation and success. Make time for activities that reduce stress, improve sleep, and nourish your body.

    8. Unlock the Power of Your Subconscious Mind: Learn techniques to access your subconscious mind, which plays a significant role in shaping your reality. Positive thoughts and visualizations can influence your subconscious beliefs for the better.

    9. The Law of Attraction (with a caveat): The book may discuss the Law of Attraction, which emphasizes the power of positive thoughts to attract desired outcomes. It's important to remember that the Law of Attraction is often a simplified concept. While a positive mindset is crucial, success often requires a combination of positive thinking, concrete action planning, and persistence.

 

   10. Never Stop Learning: Always strive to expand your knowledge and develop new skills. Read books, attend workshops, and seek out mentors to keep yourself motivated and growing on your journey to success.

It's war.... put ur mask on

Thoughtful Sunday Morning

I love reading thoughtful columns in Sunday's newspaper, yes, I am one those who love to hold the newspaper in hand than reading online. I was eagerly waiting to read, while the newspaper appeared on my door.

I grabbed it and jumped into the chair looking for my favorite columns. Puzzles my favorite.... playing with numbers in Sudoku and followed by Marathi Shabdhakoda. Now its time for  the interesting and thoughtful or say thought provoking articles or just light feel good happy ones.

Todays article was about kids.....ABUSE,MOLESTATION,RAPE AND SOMETHING VERY INHUMAN HAPPENING INCIDENTS AROUND.

Reference was of an incident happened on 7th July 2024, 8-year-old girl raped and killed brutally by 12 years kids.... schoolmates. Similar cases shocked and gave goosebumps. The figures reflected for cases happening annually to daily was shocking.

I couldn't read more than two paragraphs.... What's wrong...why are people behaving like this? What can be done?? This is not about gender its happening with kids irrespective of their gender. How can we protect them.

As a parent what can we do? have you ever thought on this, is your child self-sufficient and strong enough to fight back?

What is that you dream for your child, the best of life. A good life, luxuries, want them to be successful. Every parent wants it. but does it not sound very vague...the road to this has lot of hardships that the child has to go through. well, some are seen some are not. there are lot of challenges the child is going to come across and its very important how the child faces and overcomes it.

The seen challenges can be overcome but those unseen are very risky and dangerous. While we are preparing our children for their carrier developing various skills in them, training them for better tomorrow, are we? When we say we are bringing up the child we not only make them confident and independent, but we need to make them self-sufficient in all ways.

Good touch and Bad touch boomed up in school after various cases got reflected in news against child abuse, everywhere everybody was talking about it. It was included in theme syllabus now. In playschool the teachers started explaining the three-year-old about the touches. Well awareness is good, but does it serve the purpose.

It sounded now that the children were clear on the touch and probably now abuse proof. well well well There is lot more to it no matter how much you educate people or children about it...its still happening around. Few get disclosed and public. Every newspaper covers one disclosed story and many hidden once.

Good touch or Bad touch are probably the base of this act, children will identify it and may report too. What I think is we should help our kids learn martial arts as basic education, self-protection, and use it or implement whenever they see danger around. Schools have included Taekwondo, karate gymnastics etc in the syllabus but it should be take to next level.

Parents should stop protecting children and expose them to the martial arts, make them stronger enough to actually fight back.

In maximum reported cases the rapist or the abuser is the close or say a known person. Child needs to be emotionally stronger to fight against someone he/she is emotionally connected. Parents should be strong enough to stand with kids against abuser and file the cases. Come ahead and support your kid, the law is very strict against such abusers. Law will help you provided you ask for it,stand for it and stand with your child.

Some ways to deal with this before time...precaution is better than cure

Talk to your child,about everthing.be transparent and let the child feel comfortable with you. 

What about children or something who cannot have martial arts training... They can have those sprays, safetypins, even chilli powder handy. Let the know if requires they can use their manucured hands to scrathsomeones face, toothsi smile to tear someoneapart, fingures to screw in someones eyes. 

Remember that if u do nit use them someone else will use it to tear u apart. If u do not protect yourself, fight for ur self, no one else would... Candle march's doesn't open anyonea eyes.

It's war.. You kill the person or he will kill you. 

Put your nails, teethe, masks on... It's the fight of survival. 

Mistakes.....must in life

If milk gets bad, it becomes yoghurt. Yoghurt is more valuable than milk. If it gets even worse, it turns to cheese. 

Cheese is more valuable than both yoghurt and milk. 

And if grape juice turns sour, it transforms into wine, which is even more expensive than grape juice. 

You are not bad because you made mistakes. Mistakes are the experiences that make you more valuable as a person. 

Christopher Columbus made a navigational error that made him discover America. Alexander Fleming’s mistake led him to invent Penicillin. 

Don’t let your mistakes get you down. It is not practice that makes perfect. It is mistakes we learn from that makes perfect!

Do more Mistakes... But learn from it. Also remember one who opts will get chance to do mistakes and learn. 

Social Rules

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU AND YOU SHOULD YOU SHOULD ..........YOU SHOULD FOLLOW.

 

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person who loaned it to you remembers or asks for it. It shows your integrity and character. The same goes for umbrellas, pens, and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you to lunch or dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh, so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a house?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a car?’ For God’s sake, it isn’t your problem.

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time.

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember, what may seem like 6 to you might appear as 9 to someone else. Besides, a second opinion is good for an alternative.

8. Never interrupt people while they are talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all.

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and shows how appreciative you are.

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.... This applies to kids too. 

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctor's appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay." Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness.

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed by how rudely you treat someone below you, but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

17. Never give advice until you’re asked.

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age or salary.

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it.

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreover, eye contact is as important as your speech.

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22. After reading a good message, consider saying "Thanks for the message."

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have.

Following this small often neglected issues, will make you socially sound and reapectful. 

Speed Reading Technique

These lessons from "Speed Reading" provide practical guidance for improving reading speed, comprehension, and efficiency, ultimately helping readers to become more effective and efficient learners

1. Focus on Comprehension: Speed reading isn't just about reading quickly; it's also about understanding and retaining information effectively.

2. Use Visual Techniques: Utilize techniques such as chunking, visualization, and peripheral vision to increase reading speed without sacrificing comprehension.

3. Practice Regularly: Like any skill, speed reading improves with practice. Set aside dedicated time each day to practice speed reading techniques and gradually increase your reading speed.

4. Eliminate Subvocalization: Minimize subvocalization, the habit of silently pronouncing words as you read, to increase reading speed and reduce cognitive load.

5. Utilize Skimming and Scanning: Learn to skim and scan texts to quickly identify key points, main ideas, and relevant information.

6. Pre-Reading Strategies: Preview texts before reading them in full by scanning headings, subheadings, and summaries to gain an overview of the content and structure.

7. Maintain Focus: Minimize distractions and create a conducive reading environment to enhance focus and concentration while speed reading.

8. Use Technology Wisely: Leverage technology tools and apps designed to improve reading speed and comprehension, such as speed reading apps and RSVP (Rapid Serial Visual Presentation) readers.

9. Set Realistic Goals: Establish achievable reading goals based on your current reading speed and gradually work towards increasing your speed over time.

10. Continuous Improvement: Speed reading is a skill that can always be improved. Continuously seek out new techniques, strategies, and resources to enhance your speed reading abilities.

Powerful lesson to practice your mind

1. Embrace the Process, Not Just the goal, emphasize that enjoyment and fulfillment come from the act of practicing itself, not just achieving the end goal. Learning to find joy in the repetition and effort of mastering a skill leads to deeper engagement and more sustainable progress.

2. Mindfulness as a Powerful Tool: Cultivating mindfulness helps quiet distractions, enhance focus, and develop deeper awareness of your internal state. This allows you to navigate challenges with greater composure and learn from both successes and failures.

3. Breaking Down Tasks into Manageable Chunks: Instead of feeling overwhelmed by the big picture, break down your goals into smaller, achievable steps. This makes the process less daunting and allows you to celebrate each milestone, boosting motivation and resilience.

4. Develop a Practice Routine: Consistency is key. Establishing a regular practice routine, even if it's just for short periods each day, reinforces discipline, develops muscle memory, and accelerates progress.

5. Embrace Effort and Challenge: Overcoming difficulties is an essential part of learning and growth. View challenges as opportunities to refine your skills, develop perseverance, and build mental fortitude.

6. The Importance of Rest and Recovery: Just like our muscles, our minds need time to rest and recharge. Taking breaks, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities you enjoy helps prevent burnout and maintain focus and motivation.

7. Continuous Learning and Adjustment: Learning is a lifelong journey. Be open to feedback, experiment with different approaches, and be willing to adjust your practice based on your evolving needs and skills.

What Really Matters...

10 rules ..to focus on what really matters

1. Identify your priorities: Take the time to reflect on what truly matters to you and what you want to achieve in life. 

This clarity will help you make better decisions and allocate your time and energy effectively.

2. Eliminate distractions: Minimize or eliminate distractions that hinder your focus and productivity. 

This includes reducing time spent on social media, turning off notifications, and creating a conducive environment for deep work.

3. Practice essentialism: Embrace the concept of essentialism, which means focusing on the vital few things that bring the most value and impact to your life. 

Say no to non-essential tasks and commitments.

4. Set clear goals: Define clear and specific goals that align with your priorities. 

This will help you stay focused and motivated, as well as measure your progress along the way.

5. Develop a routine: Establishing a daily routine can help you create structure and consistency in your life. It allows you to allocate time for your priorities and reduces decision fatigue.

6. Embrace minimalism: Simplify your life by decluttering physical possessions, digital clutter, and unnecessary commitments. 

This will free up mental space and allow you to focus on what truly matters.

7. Practice mindfulness: Cultivate mindfulness by being fully present in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. 

This helps you stay focused and make intentional choices.

8. Prioritize self-care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being. 

Prioritize activities like exercise, proper nutrition, quality sleep, and relaxation to maintain your energy and focus.

9. Learn to say no: Be selective about the commitments and opportunities you take on. 

Saying no to non-essential tasks or requests allows you to protect your time and focus on what truly matters.

10. Continuously evaluate and adjust: Regularly review your priorities, goals, and commitments. 

Adjust as needed to ensure you stay aligned with what truly matters to you.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

1. Acknowledge Feelings: It is very important that we validate children's emotions by acknowledging their feelings without any type judgment or criticism. By empathizing with their emotions, parents can create a supportive and understanding environment for children, children open up when they feel acknowledged and attended. 

2. Use Descriptive Language: Children should be handled with utmost care, when ever are talking about children avoid blaming them or naming them under any criteria, Instead of labeling or judging children's behavior, describe what you see or feel without assigning blame. This helps children understand the consequences of their actions and encourages self-reflection.

3. Offer Choices: let them decide. Give children choices whenever possible to empower them and encourage autonomy. So you would end up giving reasonable and effective choices only. By involving children in decision-making, parents can promote a sense of responsibility and co-operation and of course they would not have scope to go wrong.

4. Problem-Solving Skills: let them fight their own battle. Teach children problem-solving skills by involving them in finding solutions to conflicts or challenges. Let them fund solutions to their problems in your supervision.do not involve yourself in it. Encourage brainstorming, listening to different perspectives, and working together to reach mutually acceptable solutions.

5. Active Listening: Use tour body language to make child feel and understand that you are  listening. Practice active listening by giving children your full attention, making eye contact, and listening without interruption nodding your head, Smiling or showing expressions. Reflect back their feelings and thoughts to show that you understand and respect their perspective.

6. Limit Criticism and Praise: Do not judge the child on it act or event brighter praise the child too much bother are dangerous and are hindrance to their growth. Avoid excessive criticism or praise, as both can be counterproductive. Instead, focus on specific feedback and encouragement that promotes intrinsic motivation and self-esteem.

7. Use Positive Reinforcement: Always acknowledge and praise positive behavior. Focus on their efforts, force they have put in. Appreciate their thinking ability and consider their limitations as well. Encourage positive behavior by using specific, descriptive praise and rewards. Focus on the effort and progress rather than the outcome, and be consistent in reinforcing desired behaviors.

8. Set Clear Boundaries: let the children know their limitations. they should be aware of their area of performance the field they have to plat in. Establish clear and consistent rules and boundaries to provide structure and guidance for children. Communicate expectations calmly and respectfully, and enforce consequences when necessary.

9. Model Effective Communication set a good example for your child.be the person you want your child to be. work in small aspects of behavior, personality approach and thought process as well. Lead by example by demonstrating respectful and effective communication skills in your interactions with others, including children. Show empathy, active listening, and problem-solving strategies in your own behavior.

10. Encourage Emotional Expression: Let the child know he is accepted with his emotional baggage. Keep the environment open and safe as well as supportive.  Create a safe and supportive/comfortable environment for children to express their emotions openly and honestly. Validate their feelings and help them develop healthy coping strategies for managing emotions.

11. Respect Individual Differences: Every child may react differently for an act, be more acceptable in nature. Recognize and respect each child's unique temperament, interests, and needs. Adapt your communication style and parenting approach accordingly to support their individual development.

12. Foster Mutual Respect: Treat them with dignity. Cultivate a relationship of mutual respect and trust with your children by treating them with dignity, empathy, and understanding. Show appreciation for their efforts and contributions, and value their opinions and perspectives.

GODDESS OF DESIRE

  

The Goddess of Desires

We have been worshiping the women power as per Indian Mythology. We worship Goddess as well in different phases of life. As part of our culture we take blessing from parents or elders at home before starting the day.

Lakshmi the goddess of prosperity, fortune and wealth. We all have been worshiping her. We are aware that she is lord Vishnu’s wife. It is said that Lakshimi resided in Lord Vishnu’s heart. She is believed to be daughter of king of ocean. It is also said that during the churning of ocean when Lakshmi emerged, she emerged with her shadow Kulakshmi.

Kulakshmi has all the qualities exactly opposite to Lakshmi and she accompanies her where ever she goes.

Lakshmi’s arrival brings prosperity, wealth and health to the person, but if  you take her for granted and do not value her presence she moves out of the house. But when she leaves, Kulakshmi is believed to stay back and ruin the family’s fortune, wealth and relations as well.

 

In Indian mythology, it is believed that Lakshmi manifests in eight forms, hence called Ashtalakshimi.

The first called Adilakshmi, it is believed to be her first manifestation that emerged out of ocean churning during  Samudra Manthan. This is the common picture that we see. She wears red jaari saree and is seated in a Pink lotus.

Second is Dhanyalakshmi, who is normally worshiped by farmers. She has hands filled with grains pouring them on ground.

DhairyaLakshmi is worships by those who seek bravery as she is known for the courage and gives strength. Gajalakshmi is also called Gajanthlakshmi, it is in the form of elephant with his aroused trunk and pour gold or spray water. People keep Gajanth Lakshmi at home to attract wealth and properity. SantanaLakshmi is the fifth appearance  of Goddess Lakshmi worshiped by childless couples as she is surrounded by children. Vijayalakshmi is the sixth form and is worshiped for victory and courage. You can easily relate them to the warriors or kings in olden age. Vidyalakshmi is the seventh one who is prayed for knowledge. She is somewhat similar to Goddess Saraswati, but Goddess Saraswati is more stable .

The eights is Dhanalakshmi the goddess of wealth who is pouring the gold from her hands.

These all are the various appearance of Lakshmi, and prayed or worshiped for different desires, but all have the shadow of Kulakshmi with them. As she is the goddess of desires she may bless you , but you need to value her presence and do not take her appearance or blessing for granted. As a result of it is believed that she steps out of the house and is not followed by Kulakshmi who stays back.

The mythological Character Lakshmi is so relevant to women on earth, who appears in various roles in your life. You need to value her contribution and accept her with the darker side –Kulakshmi.

Thou she is a Goddess she performs different roles in different appearances. Then why being a human- a simple women we have that urge to do anything and everything. Would that not be right  if you provide yourself few roles that you can perform better. We unknowingly get engraved into number of roles at a time. It happens that we realise some day that we are stretching too much to perform all roles. Try and justify your role to satisfy your urge and give best results. These best results are not for the world but for yourself.  

Detoxification Of House

THE TOXINS OF THE HOUSE ARE:

1. Objects You No Longer Use.

2. Clothes You Don't Like Or Haven't Used In A While. Damaged underwear.

3. Broken Things.

4. Old cards and notes.

5. Plants that are dead or sick.

6. Receipts and Old Magazines.

9. Shoes Broke.

7. Stuff of all kinds calling the past.

8. If you have children, toys that are not used, that do not work or broken.

WITH CLEANING THEM OUT:

1. Health gets better.

2. Creativity grows.

3. Relationships get better.

4. There is greater reasoning capacity.

5? Improved mood.

QUESTIONS THAT MIGHT HELP CLEANSING:

- Why am I saving that?

- Is it about me today?

- How will I feel if I release that?

Separate and classify:

1. To donate.

2. To throw.

3. To sell.

INSIDE CLEANING REFLECTED OUTSIDE.

1. Avoid extreme noises.

2. Less strong lights.

3. Less saturated colors.

4. Less chemical odors.

5. Less sad memories.

6. Finish unfinished projects.

7. Cultivate positive energy in your home.

Do a general cleaning and use boxes for organization. Start with drawers and cabinets and conclude each piece, do everything at your pace...

a) Trash.

b) Arrangements.

c) Recycling.

d) In doubt.

e) Gifts.

(f) Donation.

g) Sell.

As you CLEANSE, watch what changes in you.

As we clean our physical house, we also place order to our mind and heart.

Practice detachment with material things that just fill your space and you'll see how you'll slowly be able to do the same with more momentous situations.

Blessed be for you always

The Pink balloon

the pink balloon these days my daughter is very happy when she received balloons specially the pink ones. no wonder girls get associated with pink colour very quickly she loves to play with the balloon feels sad when it bursts and is never ready to give it out to someone she will share any other colour of balloon but not the pink one. it was a Sunday evening and we had planned a small outing some shopping followed by dinner. post lock down this was our first outing and we were all were very excited. It was the winter evening we were enjoying the winter season. with the sweaters and shawl on we were travelling on a bike. done with shopping and some Window shopping unhappily roaming on the roads. while I was searching for some pretty tops someone gifted pink balloons to my daughter from the decoration of the shop it says the shop had recently opened but my daughter was more than happy to receive the balloon specially the pink. on the way we thought of buying some veggies and fruits.the roadside vendors were shouting to sell out their articles. it was very crowded some small children were moving around asking people for some money or some stuff to eat we tried and help some kids providing them something to eat it was really cold and I felt very bad looking at those kids moving on the road bare foot. They had no sweaters nor any warm clothes.

My daughter some balloons in her and enjoying and struggling to hold them on bike.

She saw those poor kids looking at her and asked Mumma why are they sitting on road, why don't they go home. 

I explained her they are poor do not have warm clothes, house to Live in.

She felt sad. Don't they go to school. I said no baby they do not have enough money to go to school. 

She could  not understand but looking at her balloons and the kids sitting quietly feeling cold. She asked Mumma  should I give them balloon.

I smiled at her and said yes. We stood for a while, the children rushed to us,looking at what was in our hand.

My daughter called one small kid and gave them balloons and said share with your friends also.I was overwhelmed with her understanding no behaviour.Such proud moment for parents that kids at hardly age of five understand sharing.

I guess it's up to us how we make them. Understand value of small things, pleasures and how to get happiness.

Managing Waste in festive season

I was involved in the ISO 14000 activity as an auditor in my last organization. For those who do not know ISO 14000 it is about the Environment Management System (EMS). It was a practice in corporate organizations, wherein we segregated the waste in different bins and recycle the possible and discard the waste in the right manner. The idea is how to save the environment from the hazardous effect of the wastes.

Today is eight day of Ganesh festival and the flowers, garlands and other stuff which is called as nirmalya is collected in a different bag. It is not given away as waste in the garbage, but it kept and disposed off in the nirmalya Kalash near the lakes where Ganesh immersion takes place. 

But the fact is it is further segregated and finally disposed off in appropriate bins.

For better understanding, the waste is looked upon and procedures are identified to reduce waste, recycle waste, and reuse waste. It varies from place an function to function.let us how it is applicable to us in daily life.

Waste can be segregated in dr and wet category.E waste  gain remains same.

The solution to resolution

It was born in the month of December. It was very important that one would make it survive for the betterment of life. Of course, it was the result of the need and urge to have a better life.

The year-end celebration was bringing the time closer to actually work on it. The new years' dawn kicked you out of bed to start jogging, health cautious. For some, the oldest books got dusted and for some old friends showed up. Making habits better, learning new things. Reading daily, exercise is first on everyone's list.

The resolution doesn't last much......Received a message from the fitness club saying. Please join after 6th Jan as the club would be crowded with the annual resolution crowd.

Some say resolutions are made to be crushed.

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Attached my Vlog for reference based on resolutions on my channel insights to meshirish

If it goes difficult to achieve the resolutions always plan or design them in such a way that it encourages you to reach the goal. 

1. Make smaller goals, smaller targets
2. Design targets easy to achieve 
3. Do not start gym start with a walk
4. Keep the duration less 
5. Do not go for yoga for one hour go for pranayam or suryanamaskar for few minutes. Make it two to 5 mins. 
6. Start reading one daily than planning to read books. 
7. The minimum target makes it easy to achieve. 
8. It helps to keep the consistency of the act
9. Consistency makes it a habit
10. When you look back after 10 to 15 days you have achieved the minimum target easily. 
11. You have at least started with minimum than doing nothing.

Hope this will at least help you start your resolution and you get into it you may achieve the goals. Based on the availability of time your urge to have resolution Completion.Your next year's resolution is definitely going to be different than this year's. 

Let us embrace 2021

The year 2020 was not less than an amusement park, a rollercoaster ride. 2020 was a combo year, a teacher who taught and kicked us out of our comfort zones. Unknowingly we became the witness of a milestone year. Believe me we are going to share stories to our kids and grandchildren….once upon a time in 2020….2020 actually came up with lot of surprises good, bad, and worst, in all sense. It showered anxiety, threat, uncertainty, unpredictable situation, and showed all of us the most awaited mirror. Need of the time.

In India March came with an uncertain and unpredictable lockdown. Generations had never faced something we did and I am happy we made it to 2021.Year was surprise package of lay off of various organizations, irreparable loss, emotional threat, stressful situations. We faced all types of crises, medical and economical. No one knew how long it would take to get back to normal…instead we all came up with new normal. Work from home, home schools, online studies. It was all together a great learning of course for those who really learned. People accepted the loss of job and opportunities and actually discovered their passion, interests and in fact a new carrier. Many of us bounced back to fullest like shining stars. Human being got opportunity to be human, and the year actually surfaced the good side of humanity. People came up with helping each other. Employees were paid salaries at all levels across the world irrespective of the job results. from a house maid to corporate manager. The employees accepted and welcomed the salary reduction positively.

We entered a dark cave in hope but had to face adventures, actually felt like some treasure hunt or adventurous sport, or like Jungle safari. But believe me, there is an end, there has to be an opening to the tunnel which will bring the light in.

We were successful to the extent of making lemonade of the lemons thrown at us. We all were shaken upside down and thrown, but we all made it possible by changing the traditional ways of working studying, and living life. We actually could survive without many things we thought were basic needs. The celebrations became more meaningful this year.2020 actually helped us believe in the impossible as I M POSSIBLE.

Public and government-supported as well as worked in collaboration. Private sectors, government sectors all did their best.

We accepted challenges and pushed a mile more, extended our limits, and excelled. We survived with minimum needs and families got along so well irrespective of facilities available. Relationships improved and were valued again and we started valuing relations, families, me time and came up with happy families.

2020 was indeed a rejuvenating year that got the best out of us. We cannot predict how 2021 is going to be but with changed lifestyle and acceptance we can do it much better. It had been so uncertain for the last 365 days  that we cannot predict but we can always mold our self with the utmost care and keep surviving on hopes.

Last but not least for those who could not make it to 2021, condolence to their families. For those who could not grab the year of opportunity, it's still not late.

With all the valuable learning and experience we can do it ….2021 and more. Let us bid goodbye to 2020 and welcome 2021.Happy new year to all of you.Lets embrace 2021

Zindagi ….aa Raha hunn main.

 

 

मुलांना शिस्त कशी लावायची

  मुलांना शिस्त कशी लावायची कदाचित आपल्या आधीच्या पिढीला हा प्रश्न कधीच पडला नसावा. पण पालक आणि मुलं हे समीकरण पिढ्यानपिढ्या सारखच राहत. पण आपल्या पिढीला हा प्रश्न पडतो कारण आपल्या पिढीमध्ये बऱ्यापैकी  पालक हे कामावर जात असून,  तसेच एकत्र कुटुंब पद्धती आता दिसत नाही. मुलांना देण्याचा वेळ काही प्रमाणात कमी झालेला आहे. कधी कधी आपल्या कामामुळे इतके व्यस्त असतो की मुलं अचानक मोठी झाल्याचे भासत. अचानक प्रश्न पडतो मुलांना शिस्त कशी लावावी?

 मुलांना शिस्त ही त्यांच्या आजूबाजूची परिस्थिती, त्यांचे पालक त्यांची शिक्षक आणि त्यांचे मित्र यांच्याकडूनच लागते. आपल्या प्रत्येक वागण्याचं आकलन करत असतात तसेच शाळेत त्यांना त्यांचे शिक्षक काय शिकवतात त्यांचे मित्र कसे वागतात याच्यावर ही त्यांची शिस्त बऱ्यापैकी अवलंबून असते. त्याची सगळ्यात जास्त जबाबदारी पालकांची असते.

 सगळ्यात पहिला आणि महत्त्वाचा मुद्दा आहे की जेव्हा मुलं आपल्याकडे काही विचार न करता केवळ काही बोलल्या करता येतात तेव्हा पालक म्हणून आपण त्यांना शंभर टक्के वेळ/ लक्ष देतो का.

 आपल्या हातात सतत आपला मोबाईल तसेच समोर लॅपटॉप  असतो का? ज्यामुळे मुलांना असा भास होतो की आपण जे काम करतोय ते फार महत्त्वाच आहे आणि किंबहुना ते मुलांपेक्षाही महत्त्वाच आहे अशी जाणीव झाल्यानंतर मुलं थोडेसे जिद्दी होऊ लागतात. त्याकरता गरजेच आहे ते जेव्हा मुलं आपल्याकडे काही हेतूने येतात तेव्हा मुलांना  शंभर टक्के लक्ष द्यावे, त्यांच्या मनातील ते महत्त्वाचं नाही अशी भावना एकदा गेली की मुलं आपोआप आई-वडिलांचे सगळं ऐकू लागतात. आई-वडिलांनी त्यांच्याकडे लक्ष दिलेलं आवडतं इनफॅक्ट लक्ष वेधून घेण्या करता ते बरंच काही करतात कधीकधी चुकाही करतात.

 जर आपण लहान मुलांविषयी बोललो तर लहान मुलांना फक्त आई-वडील समोर हवे असतात आई-वडिलांनी आपल्या  बरोबर बोलावं खेळावं एवढीच अपेक्षा असते त्यांना आई-वडिलांकडून मटेरियलस्टिक अशी काहीही अपेक्षा नसते. त्यामुळे रोज कामावरुन आल्यानंतर आपला सगळं कामाचं व्याप बाजूला ठेवून आपण मुलांना कमीत कमी अर्धा ते एक तास दिला तर मुलं अतिशय खूश होऊन नीट वागतात.

 दिवसातल एक  जेवण तरी मुलांबरोबर करणं आवश्यक असतं. तसेच जेवताना मोबाइल किंवा काम बाजूला ठेवणे,फोन न उचलणे, आणि कुटुंबाबरोबर बोलत बोलत गप्पा मारत जेवण   केल्यानं मुलांना त्यांना वेळ दिल्यासारखं वाटतं.

 मुलांशी आपल्याला काही शंका विचारतात तेव्हा बराच वेळा आपल्याला त्याचे उत्तर माहीत नसतात तेव्हा मुलांना सरळपणे माहित नाही असं म्हणण्यापेक्षा विचार करतो आणि माहिती करून सांगतो हे जास्त सोयीस्कर असं केल्याने आपण मुलांना विचार करण्यास प्रवृत्त करतो किंवा प्रोत्साहन देतो

महत्त्वाचा मुद्दा - मुलांमध्ये आणि आई-वडिलांमध्ये कम्युनिकेशन विचारांची देवाण-घेवाण खूप  गरजेची आहे.

 आपले विचार मुलांना कळायला हवेत तसेच मुलांचे विचार सुद्धा आई-वडिलांनी गृहीत धरायला हवेत घरातला कुठलाही निर्णय घेताना त्यामध्ये मुलांचा विचार घेऊन ती गोष्ट केली तर मुलांना जबाबदार असल्यासारखं वाटतं. ते विचार करू लागतात थोडक्यात आपण  त्यांना डिसिजन मेकिंग शिकवतो यांन मुलांचा कॉन्फिडन्स वाढतो.

 कम्युनिकेशन वाढवा कॉन्फिडन्स वाढला मुलं  निर्णय घ्यायला लागले म्हणजे त्यांच्यामध्ये आपोआप जबाबदारी येते.

 मुलं जबाबदारीने गोष्टी करायला शिकतात.

 मुले प्रत्येक गोष्ट आपलीच बघून करतात त्यामुळे आईवडिलांनी तर रोल मॉडेल होण्याकरता आपणही शिस्तशीर वागलो तर मुलं आपल्या सारखेच  वागतात.

 मुलांना शिस्त लावण्याकरता आईवडिलांनी स्वतः शिस्तशीर वागणं बोलणं आणि राहण तितकाच गरजेच आहे.

 मुलांना शिस्त लावण्याकरता महत्त्वाचा वाटा असतो  आजी आजोबांचा. आपले आई-वडील आपल्या मोठ्यांशी कसे वागतात किंवा आपल्या घरातील मोठे त्यांच्या मुलांशी कसे वागतात हे सगळं बघून शिकतात त्यांना वळण लागतं.

 घरातल्या लोकांच्या संस्कारावर मुलाचे संस्कार जास्त अवलंबून असतात तसेच त्यांच्या शाळेतील त्यांचे मित्र त्यांचा शिक्षक वर्ग त्यांना मार्गदर्शन करू शकतो.

 तुम्हाला तुमच्या मुलांना जे काय शिकायचं आहे समजा तुम्हाला एखादी भाषा शिकवायची असेल त्या भाषेमध्ये तुम्हाला बोलता लिहिता वाचता आले पाहिजे तर बोला तुमचं अनुकरण करतात तुमच्याकडून शिकतात.

 आपल्या आधीच्या पिढीपेक्षा आपल्याला मुलांना शिस्त लावून आहे थोडं चॅलेंजिंग वाटतं कारण तेव्हाच्या आणि आताच्या कुटुंब पद्धतीमध्ये टेक्नॉलॉजीमध्ये  खूप फरक आहे आधी मुलांना आपोआप शिस्त लागायचे आणि थोड्याच शिकवावे लागायचं आता मुलांना जास्त शिकवावं लागतं.

Public speaking skills for kids

Public speaking skills for children Everything happens for the first time in our life sometimes we perform much better than we expect and sometimes we fail. Before quitting we should always look back for the reasons of our failure. 

Public speaking is a skill which can be attained in the school days itself but at the same time if the child fails in doing so he probably may not opt for it again. it happens that children at times freeze on the stage looking at the audience, sometimes they forget what they were supposed to say, sometimes they just fumble. let us see first what can be the reasons for the failure or freezing on the stage.

There are various reasons like may be 

Fear

Shyness 

Lack of knowledge 

Audience 

Language barrier

Confidence

These all are very important factors for one to be a public speaker .

To be a successful public speaker we should be well versed with the language and audience understand it.

It is very important to know who is the audience and in front of whom we are going to share our knowledge, we need to understand the ability, language or qualification of the audience who is going to hear us. 

Having knowledge of the topic is very essential in case of kids it mostly happens that the kids learn the script by heart or mug it up and finally on the stage they speak it out.In this course if they forget some word or some line and thus they cannot deliver what they are supposed to. If the students really study the topic very well understand and then they speak about the topic the speech becomes much more natural than the one which is mugged up. Being knowledgeable they do not get stuck up, or the question doesn't arise if they forget anything the flow of the topic goes natural and appeals.

Shyness is a character trait of a person definitely it takes time for a person to be extrovert. Shyness cannot be called as fear it is the character trait of a person where a person doesn't open up or speak easily with everybody he prefers to stay calm and introvert the only remedy for shyness is trying to open up yourself by sharing your thoughts speaking to unknown people confidently. If your child is shy ensure that you take him to public places talk to new people make new friends.Being a character trait it will take time for the child to open up but over a period of time and continuous practice it will definitely help the child to speak up and perform well for public speaking. 

Fear doesn't exist if the person is knowledgeable. When the child has knowledge about the particular thing he doesn't hesitate to speak and he gets confidence as well as the fear does not exist. fear is again of various types other it is the first time first performers fear  second is if the child has faced a failure earlier like if the child has tried public speaking and has freezed on the stage such experiences  do not allow the child to perform and pull him back.

The audience acceptance or reactions if the child has faced bullying by the audience he is scared of performing again in front of the same audience.

Parents and teachers play a very important role in increasing the child by boosting up his spirit there may be failures at times of the child may not succeed in the very first time but the parents and the Teachers role here is to encourage the child to participate understand the topic study the topic and deliver the speech with confidence.

It may be hard in the beginning may be difficult for the child to speak in the very first attempt but over a period of time he will definitely succeed here the parent and teachers role is to make the child understand and accept failure you need to guide him to accept failure as failures are the first step towards success it is not always about success but it is more about participating I am giving it a try.

So encourage your child to participate  and practice well. Develop the skill in your child.

Immortal Teachings

Collection of beautiful stories with moral values- I am writing about my new book published on Amazon. This is again an ebook ( soft copy ) considering the fact that still having hard copies is not preferred by many of us. These stories are heard by me sometimes in schools and management presentations as well, that is why I haven't restricted this to any age. 

I keep reading such stories to keep myself grounded and inculcate moral values in my daughter. I have always shared stories with kids around in different ways.

Imagine I was narrating Alibaba and 40 theifs to my 4-year-old. It was indeed a difficult task to make her understand poor brother, rich brother, weighing machine(she knows digital one only ), gold coins  Khul Ja sim sim etc It is difficult to explain simple things to kids with gadget powers and especially those who live in cities far from natural and actually a way of living life.

Well, the stories narrated are kept simple with simple language for better understanding. Narrate it to your kids and of course elders around too. I would be publishing more at different intervals.

The idea of writing these stories is nothing but to benefit the readers. Some of these stories were heard in school or some in corporate training.

A human being is a teacher and the student himself. I would not restrict this book to any age as the stories with morals are the immortal teachers.

We were students when we heard these stories in schools and today we read this for our children, Stories play an important role in shaping the next generations, making them understand our values.

Stories with morals do wonders with children of all ages, they engage them in imagination and creativity. The stories here are designed short for children to keep focused on it.

Its a combination of various stories and moral values.Hope you enjoy reading them out.

लाल बहादुर शास्त्री

 लाल बहादुर शास्त्री कॉंग्रेस चे सरचिटणीस असताना त्यांना दरमहा ६० रुपये  पगार होता , जो ते आपल्या पत्नी कडे देत आणि त्या मध्ये त्यांचा सगळा खर्च चालत असे. एकदा त्यांचा एक जवळचा मित्र त्यांच्या कडे आला , त्याच्या मुलाच्या शस्त्रक्रिये साठी त्याला ६० रुपये उसने पहिले होते, त्यांनी शास्त्रीजींकडे ६० रुपये मागितले..., शास्त्रीजी म्हणाले कि माझा पगाराच तेव्हडा आहे, ज्या मध्ये माझ्या कुटुंबाचा खर्च जम्तेम भागतो मी तुला कुठून पैसे देऊ ? शास्त्रीजींची पत्नी हे ऐकत होती , त्या म्हणाल्या त्याची आजची गरज महत्वाची आहे , माझ्या कडे ६० रुपये आहेत आपण ते त्यांना द्या. शास्त्रीजींनी त्याला पैसे दिले. तो मित्र गेल्यावर त्यांनी आपल्या पत्नीला विचारले कि हे पैसे तू कुठून आणलेस ? त्या म्हणाल्या तुमच्या दर महिन्यातील पगारातून मी ५ रुपये साठवत होते त्याचे १ वर्षाचे असे साठलेले , ६० रुपये माझ्या कडे होते.   ...त्या नंतर लाल बह्हादूर शास्त्री यांनी कॉंग्रेस अध्यक्षांना पत्र लिहिले आणि स्वतःचा पगार ५५ रुपये करण्याची विनंती केली....त्यांनी असे लिहिले कि माझा  महिन्याचा खर्च ५५ रुपयात भागतो......!!!. 

मरताना अवघे "६ आणे" खिशात असणारा ....... भारतीय पंतप्रधान स्वर्गिय लाल बहादूर शास्त्री यांची आज जयंती

उत्तुंग व्यक्तीमत्व. साधी राहणी, उच्च विचारसरणी…

खाजगी कामासाठी १५ किलोमीटर सरकारच्या गाडीचा उपयोग झाला तेव्हा आपल्या पत्नीला त्या खर्चाची रक्कम सरकारी कोषात भरायला सांगणारे, दुष्काळात आठवड्यातून १ दिवस पुर्णतः भुखे राहणारे, पत्नीला फाटलेल्या शर्टापासून मला याचा रुमाल तयार करून दे म्हणणारे, शेतकरी आणि जवान हे खरे राष्ट्रनिर्माते असल्याचे ओळखून जय जवान जय किसान नारा देणारे, देशाच्या स्वातंत्र्यासाठी ९ वर्ष जेल मध्ये राहणारे

उंचीने कमी मात्र कर्तुत्वाने श्रेष्ठ व्यक्तिमत्व असलेल्या शास्त्रीजींच्या बाबतीत ‘मूर्ती छोटी, कीर्ती महान’ असेही कौतुकाने म्हटले जाई. वयाच्या अवघ्या ११व्या वर्षी महात्मा गांधींच्या विचाराने प्रभावित झालेल्या शास्त्रीजींनी स्वातंत्र्य चळवळीत भाग घेतला. राष्ट्राच्या दृष्टीकोनातून सैनिक आणि शेतकरी यांचे महत्व लक्षात घेता, दोघांच्याही सन्मानार्थ त्यांनी जारी केलेली ‘जय जवान, जय किसान’ ही घोषणा आजही लोकप्रिय ठरते.

लाल बहादूर शास्त्री .. थोर स्वातंत्र्यसैनिक, भारताचे दुसरे पंतप्रधान लाल बहाद्दूर शास्त्री. लाल बहाद्दूर यांचा जन्म २ ऑक्टोंबर १९०४ राजी झाला. बालपण आणि संपूर्ण आयुष्य अतिशय साधेपणाने गेले. ९ जून १९६४ साली ते भारताचे पंतप्रधान झाले पंडित जवाहरलाल नेहरूंच्या निधनानंतर त्यांची पंतप्रधानपदी निवड झाली.१९६५ च्या भारत-पाक युद्धात भारतीय जवानांच्या पाठीशी समर्थपणे उभे राहत, त्यांनी राबविलेल्या मुत्सद्दी धोरणाच्या जोरावर पाकला चारी मुंड्या चित् करून भारतीय सैन्याने विजय मिळविला.आणि १९६५ चे भारत पाकिस्तान युद्ध त्यांच्या काळात झाले. हे युद्ध अजून काही दिवस चालले असते पाकिस्तान हा देश जगाच्या नकाशावरून संपूर्णपणे नष्ट झाला असता.त्या आधी त्यांनी उत्तर प्रदेशच्या मुख्यमंत्रीपदाची जबाबदारीही समर्थपणे पेलली होती. त्यांच्या कर्तबगारीवर त्यांनी राष्ट्रीय राजकारणात स्थान मिळविले. पंडित जवाहरलाल नेहरूंच्या नेतृत्वाखालील मंत्रिमंडळात रेल्वेमंत्री म्हणूनही त्यांनी काम पहिले. एका दुर्दैवी रेल्वे अपघाताची नैतिक जबाबदारी स्वीकारून त्यांनी राजीनामा दिला होता. अशा प्रकारे राजीनामा देण्याची ही देशातील पहिलीच घटना होती.

१९६५ च्या युद्धातील विजयानंतर सोविएत रशियाने मध्यस्ती केली आणि तत्कालीन सोविएत संघातील ताश्कंद येथे युद्धबंदी करण्यासाठी भारत-पाक शांतीचर्चा घडवून आणली. ह्याच दरम्यान ताश्कंद येथे हृदयविकाराचे एकामागोमाग दोन तीव्र झटके आल्याने ११ जानेवारी १९६६ रोजी त्यांचे दुःखद निधन झाले. त्या वेळी अवघे ६ आणे खिशात होते .स्वत:साठी काहीही न मागे ठेवता दौ-यावर असताना त्यांचा संशयास्पद मृत्यू झाला. संपूर्ण जगाला त्यांचा मृत्यू हृदयविकाराने झाला असे सांगण्यात आले, परंतु त्यांच्या पत्नी ललिता शास्त्री व मुलगा सुनील शास्त्री यांच्या मतानुसार लाल बहादूर शास्त्रीवर विषप्रयोग झाला होता. यासाठी त्यांच्या स्वयंपाक्याला अटक करण्यात आली परंतु नंतर निर्दोष मुक्तता करण्यात आली. ताश्कंद करावर सही कारण लाल बहादूर शास्त्रीना मान्य नव्हत पण त्यांना मजबुरीने त्यावर सही करावी लागली व त्यामुळेच त्यांनी आत्महत्या केली असावी किंवा सदर बाबतीचा धक्का घेतल्याने त्यांना ह्रदयविकाराचा झटका आला असावा. आजपर्यंत भारत सरकार ने सुरक्षेचे कारण देऊन त्या घटनेचा अहवाल जगासमोर आणलेला नाही.

असे हे उत्तुंग व्यक्तीमत्व. साधी राहणी, उच्च विचारसरणी…. देशाचे पंतप्रधान असूनही कोणतीही संपत्ति त्यांच्या नावावर जमा नव्हती उलट कर्जच काढून ते घर चालवत. "जय जवान, जय किसान" असा अनोखा नारा देत त्यांनी जवान आणि किसान हेच देशाचे भविष्य असल्याचे देशाला पटवून दिले होते जनतेला जिंकणारा भारतीय पंतप्रधान स्व लाल बहादूर शास्त्री हे एकच उदाहरण आहे. राष्ट्राप्रती त्यांच्या अतुलनीय योगदानाबद्दल त्यांना मरणोत्तर ‘भारतरत्न’ पुरस्काराने सन्मानित करण्यात आले. ...

*पूज्यनीय स्वातंत्र्य सेनानी माजी पंतप्रधान श्री लाल बहादुर शास्त्रीजींच्या जयंती निमित्त त्यांच्या पवित्र स्मृतीस विनम्र अभिवादन...

* *जय जवान,जय किसान*

भारतमातेच्या ह्या थोर सुपुत्रास कोटी कोटी प्रणाम 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

                                                                                                              आज २ ऑक्टोबर  लालबहाद्दूर शास्त्री यांची जयंती..त्यांना विनम्र अभिवादन...!

Strength to fight your own mind

We have seen a lot of things and learnt a lot of experiences since March 22nd 2020. Many of us have seen the highs of the life the lows of the life and are still restless with the things happening around. today I am sharing a story of some of my friends and their experiences when they were somewhere a part of this covid fight. Though I completely agree that the covid-19 was not only the fight with the virus but it is basically the fight with oneself your own mind and the people around. For some people who have fought and come up with a victory on covid-19 and some who have lost their loved ones we have some lessons that this era has taught us.

Once you are infected with the virus there is no point searching how did you get infected but the important thing is how you react to it, how your body your mind your family and people around you react to your infection. In the very beginning of this pandemic people have stood besides each other by the helping hands and concerns,but the  same hands are slowly getting withdrawn because of the fear that they people have in their mind.

Mind was the biggest enemy in all these times as the medicines were doing the job but the willpower of a person and the thought process that dragged him back literally took lives of many people. The trauma of getting infected and being isolated along with the doctors in the PPE kit was something which was not easy for a infected patient. It scared him and the mind was someone who took him on a trip to lose all the positivity and minimise his will power and strength to live. Though we all knew that yoga would have been a best weapon to deal with controlling your own self and your own thoughts and mind. In such a scenario not everybody was comfortable practicing it for the very first time.

It was a very scary experiences shared by many of my friends that they had someone in the family infected with virus which is an accident as we all know but the way people reacted to the infection was weird disgusting and humiliating. The people whom sometimes we have stood by them in weaker times giving them strength and courage to bounce back have simply turned their back. It was not only the elders who suffered but the kids from the family also suffered as they were not allowed to play with the children around of course I understand that everybody is scared to the extent of death. But behaving so in human with a small kid is no where a human act. sharing experience about the small 4 year old kid whose  father got infected with Corona and was hospitalized the kid had heard about coronavirus not very sure about what the disease is? one day missing his friend he from the grill of his house called up his friend trying to talk from the grill feeling lonely at house. His friend who is again five years old kid shouted from her main doors grill saying you please do not come to my house as your father is infected with Corona.KIds do not understand it's the way we elders talk in the family and kids repeat like parrot.  

Even doctor ill treated by a wife when asked for home isolation. 

Maids immediately stop coming for work, knowing the man of the house is infected who was hospitalised for some other reason a week back but same maids wanted to be paid in the month of March and April though they didn't work. We were told to have empathy and sympathy for less previlaged.

The lady who picks up garbage the sweeper refused to touch the garbage bag of the infected persons house with her headgloves on and addition to this she did it for entire floor. 1 k upar 5 free. While I was making her understand  people peeped from their doors and enjoyed the discussions. 

The maid shares the information that government is killing people by admitting in hospital, they don't treat. People may not understand the dialer tone for awareness of virus and safety, but such stupid rumours  are always understood. 

The doctors and nurses who were working in the covid Hospitals who were otherwise greated with a smile and are considered to be a noble profession faced the banging of doors on their face.

People on the floor of infected person closed the doors for ever and ever as though the virus would jump in the moment the door would open. 

No phone calls to ask about the hospitalised patient, never know virus may travel through vibrations.

We the people of India are so equal and stand on same pedestral irrespective  of our education, profession, awareness, caste bla bla bla.

Similar experiences which will give you goosebumps are being shared by many of my friends and even some warriors whom I do not know personally in my upcoming book somewhere in December 2020. I am happy for the people who are sharing with me to have enough courage to share their suffering rather than the people who have shown back to them in difficult Times. I would still be saying thank you to all of them who have shown their back to the covid warriors in difficult time giving them a lot of strength and courage to identify the real you. 

Today in this blog and would not ask to be more empathetic or sympathetic towards anyone because this is not something which can be taught it is something which comes within being a human. Lastly we are going to suffer all this for almost for next two years as per the WHO guidelines. So may God give all of us the strength and the spirit to fight with our own mind and the people around as medicines would be enough to take care of the virus.

If u agree do comment. 

Covidivorce

It is 6 months and the coronavirus is still somewhere around us. the pandemic has taught us a lot of things and expose us to the fact of life. The Good the Bad and the Ugly. while some people enjoyed the best part of their life during pandemic being with family, some struggled for their bread and butter. Some got stuck up at someplace other than their home2.

In some places, there is still a lockdown and people are not able to travel around. One of the most impacted areas of COVID is Human Relationship especially the couples.COVID has affected the couple's relationship to the extent that there are comparatively higher divorce and separation issues.

Covidivorce the pandemic has tried the patience of people to the level that there has been reported a spike in cases of troubled marriages, divorces, enquiries, counselling. It is observed that the COVID-19 has impacted badly on the couple's relationship. The lockdown has tested the People's patience and people are discovering the new sides of their partner the unseen which they are not liking resulting into fixing the last nail in the coffin. COVID has been an eye-opener as well as a destructor in many cases.

In the metro cities where couple hardly found some time to spend with each other Quarantine gave them months to stay together resulting them exposing the side of the partner which they were not much aware of or say which they have never seen and did not appreciate.

It was easy for many relations who had already applied for divorce and were hanging by a thread during the pandemic the quarantine actually nailed it. Similar was the case of a newly married couple who got a lot of time exploring each other resulting, to spending a lot of time together. Newly married couples could conclude in a few days. Quarantine was as an eye-opener for many couples were in they felt like they are not appreciated by the better half. Simple things like helping each other, cooking for each other or just like watching a simple web series together was hard for some couples as they have different choices and were not ready to get along. This reluctance and being headstrong at the delicate issues were not appreciated by partners resulting in break up. 

The very important part of married life sex took toll off relations in many couples. Domestic violence had increased to the level that we have seen women approaching the police stations and filing the complaint. Staying together and juggling with work from home with no social life and spending hours together tested people's threshold for patience and tolerance with a lot of anxiety the lack of job security during the lockdown gave rise to various quarrels arguments fictions and domestic violence thus finally decided to separate. As we all know that the courts were not open but the couples had approached the counselling centres seeking some relief during this time. The number of divorced pleas has gone up much higher. 

The couples do not want to stay together. These all issues are the part of a married couples life but during the pandemic, as they had no social life it got exaggerated they have no options of venting it out.

Human being getting intolerant towards the relations and finding it difficult to adjust among themselves. this is something that we are observing throughout the world there are number of rising cases. In the past few months, we have seen over 45 Hollywood couples who have called off the relationship. Apart from what we all are going through globally, I think that the couple's mulling over a divorce should give some time to the relationship and not make any hasty decision. We all are going through a different phase of life which is stressful, but the only solution to this is being patient with each other.

Gurudakshina the invention of gold tree

Today we all are celebrating Teachers day. Everybody's status reflects so, even the naughtiest one in schools. Guru dakshina reminds me of Dronacharya,Parshuram and great sages.

I came across a very interesting story about Gurudakshina.

Raghav -The King somewhere in North India was believed to be one of the strongest kings of that times.He  was a great warrior and had won many states around his kingdom, extending to todays Pakisthan,Nepal and so on. Raghav- the ancestor of Lord Rama  wasn't only a good warrior but was known for his kindness. He would perform an yagya everytime he wins the war and gave away his alms to the people who ever approach.He was well known Suryawanshi and  known for his act of  kindness as well.

An old and poor kid Koustheya who wanted to learn and his guru was ready to teach accepting the fact that he would not be able to give him any gurudakshina.His teacher taught him best and once he completed his studies,Kaustheya asked his teacher what shall he give him as gurudakshina? His teacher tol dhim that he was aware that Koustheya is poor and would not be able to give him anything.Still Koustheya insisted and at some point his Guru got angry and out of anger he asked for Ten Lakh golds coins. 

Now Koustheya was puzzled as to how will he get them,He had no option. but then he has to give gurudakshina,as on his insisting his guru has asked for it.

Koustheya started his journey as he left the Gurus Ashram. He travelled down the thick forest thinking how he could get those 10 lakh gold coins. he was thinking whom can he approach so that he can get the coins. Suddenly he thought of King Raghu the only hope he had as King Raghu was known for his kindness.

he decided to approach King Raghu and share his problem with him. when he reached the kingdom gives of there was a Yagya being held by King Raghu that was the right time to approach as he knew that Raghu gives away all his alms after he wins the war. he approached the king and ask him to share 10 lakh gold coins to him as a Guru Dakshina to his teacher. Raghu had already given up all the alms and had nothing with him. he shared with Koustheiya that he has already been done with the donation part and has nothing left with him. but he would definitely love to help him.

He asked Koustheiya to wait for some days till he gets those10 lakh gold coins . Kaoustheya are believed Raghu. Here, Raghu was puzzled as 10 lakh gold coins was a big amount and none other than Kubera would be having it. there was no chance that Kuber would give him those coins on his request so he decided to have a war with him finally he approached with his Army to kubera's Kingdom.

Kuber had many spies around his country and boundaries, in no time he got an information that you had come down with his Army near the boundary of his country to attack him. he also came to know that the war was it is that of his wish to help Kaustheya. Kuber new Raghu was a very good Warrior and had a good Army if at all they have a war he would have lost. hence he decided to help Raghu with 10 lakh gold coins Raghu was resting under a Shami tree, Kuber with a magic spell around on the Shami tree made the leaves of gold. When you woke up in the morning he saw the tree of gold he understood that was Kubera who has tried to help him and now there was no reason for war Raghu happily asked his Army to collect 10 lakh gold coins from the Shami tree.

let me tell you Shami Tree at a very important role in the history of our culture remember when Pandavas went for agyatvas they had hide all their weapons on the Shami tree. Raghu handed over 10 lakh gold coins to Kaustheya. Costa was happy he received the 10 lakh gold coins and gave his Guru Dakshina to his teacher.

The Guru accepted the Guru Dakshina and blessed Kaustheya for good life and prosperity. he distributed the gold coins among the poor and needy. this is the same day that we celebrate as Dussehra where we distribute gold and considered very auspicious on this day one who cannot donate actual gold donates leaves as gold. letter on the same day Rama is believed to have defeated Ravana and the 10th day of this month came to be known as Vijaya Dashmi today people all over the country celebrate Vijaya Dashmi on this day the tree leaves are kept in a box and distributed to friends and relatives people touching the feet of their elders and say please accept this leaves and bless us so that we prosper in our lives

Oh!! Womaniya

Dear friends,

Today's topic of my blog is my book, Oh!! Womaniya.

By now you all must be aware that I have recently published  book on amazon. Talking about the subject of book, please do not go by the name, as its not about a women but the different phases of women's life. We have same few phases applicable to men also. 

The book revolves around those phases and how women deals with them. It is a story we all have been through, still it's different for all. It's about the people around us like parents, husband, children, friends and lost women. 

The book acts as an entertainer and guide.It helps you look at life.No were you will feel sad about being a women intact you will be celebrating  the womanhood. 

It is not only for women but it also helps men to understand the women. The stories mentioned  come so easy that you can relate to them.

The book is based on all true stories. While we talk about today's women we also peep into the historical characters. 

The book is published on amazon and has good response so far. Apart from India it is published in various countries in both hard copy that is papaerback  and e-book format. We will soon be having the hard-copy in India considering the fact that we all still love holding the book in hand to read rather than going the e-way ( I am one of them) 

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B08G4MQ9K1/ref=cm_sw_r_wa_apa_dw8oFbT9T6TMH

I am also happy to announce the sequel to be published may be in next month. Thank you so much for all your love and response to my first book and I hope I get more of your eyes to read my stories. 

Thank you

ओ वुमनिया

आजचा विषय आहे माझं पुस्तक एव्हाना तुम्हाला सगळ्यांना कळलं असेल की मी एक पुस्तक प्रकाशित केलं आहे.

करोना काळामध्ये सर्वोत्तम उपाय होता तो ई बुक्स चा कारण लॉक डाऊन मुळे  लोकं वस्तूंना हात लावायला वस्तू मागवायला घाबरत होते. मग विचार केला की चला इ बुक पब्लिष करुयात ,कारण लोकं डाऊन मुळे मोबाईलचा जास्त उपयोग  करत आहेत .त्यामुळे त्यांना काही अडचण येणार नाही ई-बुक वाचण्यात.

 आता पुस्तकाबद्दल बोलूयात पुस्तकाचं नाव ओ वुमनिया. नावावरूनच  अंदाज येतो याचा विषय स्त्री हा असावा.    पण याचा विषय स्त्री नसून स्त्रीच्या  आयुष्यातील वेगवेगळ्या टप्पे आणि तिला आलेले त्यातले अनुभव  असा आहे.

 आता हे अनुभव म्हणजे सगळे अनुभव, यात चांगले आणि वाईट. तिनं तिच्या आयुष्यात बजावलेल्या वेगवेगळ्या भूमिका जसे की आई बहीण मुलगी मैत्रीण, व्यवसाय करणारी स्त्री आणि तिची तारेवरची कसरत आणि महत्त्वाचं म्हणजे हे सगळे नमूद केलेले अनुभव हे खरे असून तुमच्या माझ्या आयुष्यात घडले आहेत. पण पुस्तकात मांडताना ते एका वेगळ्या पद्धतीने मांडले गेले त्याच्यामुळे आपला त्याच्याकडे बघण्याचा दृष्टीकोण  बदलतो.

गरीब असो वा श्रीमंत हुशार असो वा मठ्ठ व्यावसायिक असो किंवा घरी बसणारी आई असो एका पातळीवर आल्यानंतर आपण सगळे सारख्याच असतो मग अगदी एखाद्या व्यावसायिक असो किंवा घरामध्ये धुणीभांडी करणारी बाई असो तिच्या मनात येणारी ती अपराधाची भावना सारखेच असते.

 कुठल्याही स्त्रीचा आयुष्य तिच्या आई-वडिलांशिवाय तिच्या नवऱ्या शिवाय, मुलांशिवाय भावा बहिणी शिवाय  अपूर्ण असतं. म्हणून या पुस्तकामध्ये तिच्या कर्तुत्वान नवरा,कायम पाठीशी उभे राहणारे वडील आई कुठे काय करते असा म्हणणारी मुलं आणि एकमेकांची समजूत काढणाऱ्या मैत्रिणी सगळ्यांचा उल्लेख आहे.

महत्त्वाचं म्हणजे हे पुस्तक वाचल्यानंतर तुम्हाला कुठेही  स्त्री ही अबला आहे अशी भावना न येता आयुष्य कसं मजेशीर जगते याचा अनुभव येतो.

 या पुस्तकामध्ये जिथे आपण आजच्या तारेवरची कसरत करणाऱ्या व्यवसायिक  महिलेची गोष्ट वाचतो तिथेच आपण काही ऐतिहासिक  चारित्र्यावर सुद्धा चर्चा करतो. आपण तिच्या आईपणा विषयी  बोलतो तिच्या कर्तृत्वाविषयी बोलतो, तिला अनाहुतपणे येणाऱ्या अपराधी भावनेने बद्दल बोलतो.

महत्त्वाचं म्हणजे या पुस्तकात चर्चा केलेल्या विषयामुळे फक्त स्त्रियांनाच नाही तर पुरुषांनाही स्त्रीच्या मनाचा थोडासा अंदाज घेता येईल. कुठेतरी जेव्हा ती नाही म्हणते त्याचा अर्थ हो कसा असतो हे कदाचित पुरुषांना कळायला मदत होईल.

तिच्या आयुष्यात सगळे वाईट अनुभव येतात का काही काही अतिशय मजेशीर अनुभव तेही सत्य घटनांवर आधारित याच्या मध्ये नमूद करण्यात आलेले आहेत.

ओ वुमनिया चे पुस्तक ॲमेझॉन वर  उपलब्ध आहे. भारताबरोबर बाकी अन्य देशांमध्ये सुद्धा आहे उपलब्ध आहे.  पर्यावरणाचा मुद्दा लक्षात घेता मला ई-बुक प्रकाशित करणे जास्त योग्य वाटलं. पण आजही बऱ्याच लोकांना पुस्तक हातात घेऊन वाचल्याशिवाय वाचण्याची मजा येत नाही (मी ही त्यांच्यातील एक ), हे कळाल्यानंतर मी त्याच्या प्रिंट प्रति सुद्धा काढणार आहे.

 हा माझा पहिला प्रयत्न असून आपण हे वाचावे अशी आपल्याला नम्र विनंती. आणि पुस्तक वाचलं तर आपला अभिप्राय ऐकायला मला नक्कीच आवडेल.

 हे पुस्तक 18 तारखेला प्रकाशित झाला असून  पंधरा दिवसांमध्ये मला तुमचा खूप छान प्रतिसाद मिळाला आहे. वाचकांचा अभिप्राय आपल्याला ॲमेझॉन आणि किंडल वर पाहायला मिळतील.  

 भारताबाहेर देखील या पुस्तकाच्या दोन्ही म्हणजे प्रिंट आणि ई-बुक ला खूप छान प्रतिसाद आहे याचबरोबर खूप वाचकांनी मला याच्या मराठी अनुवादाची देखील मागणी केलेली आहे त्याच्यावर मी नक्की विचार करेन.

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याचबरोबर मला हेही तुम्हाला कळविण्यात अत्यंत आनंद होतो की या पुस्तकाचा सिक्वेल लवकरच म्हणजे पुढच्या महिन्यात प्रकाशित होईल. आपण दिलेल्या प्रतिसादाबद्दल मी आपली खूप आभारी आहे आशा करते की असाच प्रतिसाद मला माझ्या पुढच्या वाटचाली मध्ये सुद्धा लाभ होईल .

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